There are, so far as we know, three types of persons: Divine, angelic, and human. There are no gay persons because people are not reducible to who or what they’re sexually attracted to.
When we call a person “gay,” we’ve done just that; reduced them. Said, “this is who you are, you are the type of person who is attracted to people of the same sex as you.”
No “Gay” People, Just People
Good grief! What a narrow and reductionistic view to hold of another person—a person created in the image and likeness of God. There are people who experience same-sex attraction, yes, but these people aren’t qualitatively different to us. They’re not “gay people” They’re just awesome, complex, beautiful children of God like the rest of us.
My friend Andrew, who experiences same-sex attraction, can’t stand it when people call him “gay.” He shares three reasons why:
1. We make it the norm to see ourselves first and foremost according to the attractions we experience instead of according to our identity as beloved sons and daughters of God.
2. We deprive people from coming to realize that attractions experienced (which are not specifically chosen) are distinct from embraced identity (which is specifically chosen).
3. We deprive people from coming to realize that sexual attractions are part of our fluid human experience, and that the experience of any attraction does not necessarily mean that the person will experience that attraction for the rest of his or her life.
Drop The Labels
This is not an “us” (heterosexual) and “them” (homosexual) thing. This is just an us thing. So my advice, for what it’s worth, is that we drop the labels.
All of us experience and are called to wrestle with sexual temptation, and all of us, to one degree or another, experience brokenness and distortions in our sexuality. We are all in this together.
The question we need to ask as Christians is, is chastity part of the Good News or isn’t it? If it is, and I think it is, then let us encourage each other to embrace it, live it, and grow in it.
And as we stumble and fall, let’s encourage each other to get up, return to the mercy and love of Christ, and start again.
Love has won and his name is Jesus. Let us place our trust in him.
3 Great Articles and 1 Great Video
Interested in diving deeper? Check out these three articles and this awesome video:
Love Is Not Hate by Jason Evert
Please . . . Don’t Call Me Gay by Andrew
Homosexuality: Am I Destined To Be Alone by Andrew