Porn: What if You Can’t Stop!?

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A few years back I knew a bloke who (brace yourself…and if you’re eating, stop.) had to get an emergency circumcision (OUCH!)

Why do I bring this up?

Because the man in question often confided to me that he struggled with porn and masturbation.

A few weeks after the circumcision, I asked my limping friend, with a smirk, “so, how’s your battle with masturbation going? Still falling?”

“nope, doing just fine!” He said with a cringe.

You Just Can’t Stop?

Before his circumcision, my friend would often say, “Dude, I just can’t stop, you know?” Well, turns out he was wrong. He could stop, he just needed the motivation.

His desire to avoid pain was stronger than his desire to masturbate.

The fact is, there are all sorts of things that would sufficiently motivate us to refrain from porn and masturbation.

Suppose you were on vacation with your parents for a week and you never left their sight. I doubt you’d get to a point where you’d turn to them and say, “Mum (no, I spelt that right), Dad, this is probably going to be awkward for all of us but, I just can’t help myself!!!

What About For $150,000?

What if I told you that I would give you $5,000 per day for the next 30 days if you refrain from pornography and masturbation. If you fall even once on any day before the 30 days are up you get nothing. If you can hold out until the end of day 30, I’ll give you $150,000.

Think you could do it? Me too.

Desire

The only thing that can conquer a desire is a stronger one. So, what on earth could possibly be stronger than a man’s desire to masturbate or look at porn. Well, we’ve already seen three: to avoid pain, to avoid shame, and to make a bunch of cash.

As powerful as these motivations are, I think there is still one more that is stronger than all, our desire to love. Our desire (speaking to men here) to fight for the dignity of women.

The following clip demonstrates that well, I think. It’s the scene in Braveheart where Wallace rescues his wife, Murron from being raped. Notice your disgust towards the rapist. Notice the passion and sense of valor that stirs up within you when she is rescued (not to mention when the rapist gets kicked in the face!). We know what is masculine and what is not. We know that Wallace is the man, the soldier a coward. Check it out:

God has placed within Our hearts, as men, a desire to love. This desire is stronger than Our desire to use. Let us tap into that desire, cultivate that desire.

A Challenge

If you are trying to break free from pornography, one useful thing would be to set yourself a goal. Decide, “I will not masturbate or look at porn for ______ days/weeks.

Set a goal you know you can reach. When you reach this goal you’ll be encouraged! You’ll recognize, I think, that you actually have more control over this sin than you’ve been willing to admit. When you reach your goal (don’t celebrate by masturbating—Needed to be said), set another goal. If you fall, get up, get to confession, trust in his mercy, and start again.

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6 thoughts on “Porn: What if You Can’t Stop!?

  1. Thank you for speaking out against porn.
    As someone who is married to a man with an addiction, I would like to share the want to overcome the addiction does not always equal successfully stopping.
    I have come to realize there are those who are not addicted and can stop successfully on their own. Part of his own recovery, and mine, is admitting that he, my husband, will be in recovery the rest of his life in addition to rooting out problems, professionally.
    Thank you again for your work!

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